Daily Love Dose

Going through a breakup can be very excruciating. One can’t say “I’ve moved on already” when in the back of his or her head, he or she longed to be with his or her ex again. Don’t worry, coping up with heartaches is a step by step process that you have to get over with. Take cue from the following stages from a girl’s perspective:

Stage 1: Shock
You might be in disbelief that you are no longer with your boyfriend. It is as if a bom fell on you and you want the earth to open and eat you up. Listen, the first thing that you have to do is to absorb the numbing shock.

Stage 2: Denial
Stop convincing yourself that this is not for real. Wake up, girl! Realize that you’re in a denial stage. Accept that and honor the pain.

Stage 3: Numbness
Don’t say ok if you aren’t. Just let it out. Sometimes, you thought you’re over it because you don’t know what to call the feeling at this stage – numbness.

Stage 4: Fear
Ever heard of delusional fear? It is a product of over-thinking. So come to your senses and consider nothing but facts.

Stage 5: Anger
Who wouldn’t get mad to an ex? It is ok to harbor negative feelings only if you know how to let it out and when to stop. Rant or write a journal about your hatred toward your ex to calm you down and ease the pain. Anger should not destroy you, your ex and other people around you. Handle it enough to kill the pain. Breathe in, breathe out.

Stage 6: Depression
This could be the longest stage where you are more helpless and hopeless. It’s as if sadness won’t leave you. But don’t worry, this feeling will eventually subside. Hang out with your closest friends and bond with your siblings to celebrate life and be happier.

Stage 7: Understanding
Everything is getting clear. Now that you know that you weren’t meant for each other, you’re just a step way from completely getting over him.

Stage 8: Acceptance
By accepting what happened, you’re completing the healing process. During this recovery stage, you’re becoming more prepared for whatever might happen.

Take note that each stage may branch out to multiple stages, overlapping with each other and may even result to never-ending loop. It depends on different factors but you’re the only one who has the sole control over your life.